Why Can’t I Find A Relationship? Ask Dr. Diana
Here’s another in the series of Ask Dr. Diana videos. I answer an email from a 38-year old who can’t find a relationship with a guy that leads to lasting love. She says, she’s tried everything. Well, Dr. Diana prescribes a dating intervention for this frustrated miss. Check it out.
Two Other Reasons Why You can’t Find a Relationship
Be the Change
Not being the change you want to see in the world—that is, not being the loving, alive, flirty and playful being you really are at your core.
So often we look to our partners to provide what we feel is missing in ourselves or our lives. We may want someone who is fun, yet we rarely make time for our own fun. Someone who is freely loving and emotionally generous, yet we hold love in as a way to protect ourselves. We may want someone who is happy, yet we don’t work on making ourselves happy. And while there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting all these characteristics in a partner (in fact, the right partner should have these positive qualities!), you can’t create a healthy, balanced relationship if you don’t also exude these traits.
So, to find a relationship, be like the person you’d want to go out with. And the right person will be drawn to you.
Divine timing. Let’s face it. We can’t force the universe. In the end, we have to trust that the right person will come at the exact right time—so long as you do your part. Because I’ve found that once people take the first step and become the change they want to see in others, the divine universe switches into full gear. And send the right guy to you sooner rather than later. Because you’re ready to find a relationship and meet your twin flame. And this by the way is a good thing. You wouldn’t want the universe to send the right guy if you’re not ready!
So while fate plays a role, we can speed up the process.
Now, you may be thinking, “So, Dr. Diana, this is all excellent advice, but I’ve been working on loving myself for my entire life. This is a lot of work and it’s not easy!”
I get it. You may have been through years of therapy, worked on yourself, and taken tons of personal growth courses yet still… you feel bogged down by self-doubt. Loving yourself and being that change you want to see has not been an easy task until now! So go to my the finding the one blog and begin learning how to approach the journey of finding a relationship.